Dear Debra,
I am a little embarrassed to ask you this question, but it’s an important one to me.
I am a widow who was married for 45 years and my late husband passed away two years ago. I met a wonderful man and we have been casually dating for six months. It is becoming very apparent to me that he wants to bring the relationship to the next level and if I’m truthful with myself-so do I!
I have only been intimate with one man in my life and I am nervous. Can you please give me some advice?
Thank you!
Adrienne – Barrington, RI
Dear Adrienne,
Thank you for your question. Even though it is a delicate one, it is certainly something that many widows and widowers have on their mind when they start dating. First of all I want to make sure that you do not feel pressured into beginning an intimate relationship before you feel completely ready. There is no time frame for this, and you have to be brutally honest with yourself about the relationship. If you genuinely care for the gentleman and want the relationship to go to the next step, then I would recommend that you do so. if you feel pressured in any way, that is a red flag; and I would recommend that you slow the physical side of your relationship down until you are completely ready.
I also recommend that both of you get tested for STD’s {sexually transmitted diseases) to protect your health. Life has changed since you were dating before and you do not want to take any chances in this area of your life! I would recommend that you make it as easy breezy as possible! You both obviously care about each other and this is a precaution that is necessary.
If I can help you further navigate your new love story, please contact me.