Dear Debra:
I was wondering if you could give me some guidance about Samuel. Yes, I met Samuel online. OKCUPID. I had been on the site for a while and then a few weeks ago, I decided to pay the $15 dollars a month so I could get the messages that were sent. And lo and behold, Samuel had written to me in October of 2019.
Something like…(my grandmother’s name was Elizabeth and are you interested in traveling?) I quickly wrote back and then realized he was no longer on the site.
So I put on my detective hat.. (Having a man write to you online is a sign of interest no matter the reason). He said he had moved from the DC area to
Asheville, NC. I quickly penned an email to a friend I know who lives there and she told me to call her.
So, I call her: “Roberta, do you know a Jewish man whose first name is Samuel? ” “Yes, she says, “if you mean Samuel, he is one of my favorite people. He is kind, generous and loves to dance. Let me call him while you are on the line.”
So, before I knew it, we were having a three way conversation for about ten minutes and then the phone clicked abruptly off. Roberta sent us our emails and we became connected.
I waited a few days for him to send me a note. Then, I sent him a note. He replied rather quickly. And I sent another note a few days later. Then, he sent me information about this prayer service that was online during this virtual living that we are in.
Now, what? It has been a few days and I think I should keep the conversation going. How do I flirt over email? Do I make my emails short or long? Is Roberta my Cyrano? I await your response with an open heart, – Lady in Waiting – DC
Hello Lady In Waiting,
One of my favorite sayings is “chase him until he catches you.” I would send him an email that peaks his interest to reach out to you via telephone. I am not a big proponent of emailing back-and-forth. Once you are on a telephone call with him and the conversation is going well, perhaps invite him to visit you in Washington,DC. If he is receptive-that’s great; if not just let everything lie.
If it’s meant to be, the pieces will fall into place. If not, just move on!
Best of luck navigating this possible new romance! If I can help you further navigate your new love story, please contact me.