Dear Debra,
I am recently divorced and want to start meeting women again. I am painfully shy and a bit introverted. Where do I begin?
Thank you for your advice!
Best Regards, Barry
Warren, RI
Dear Barry,
I know that being divorced is not easy as the social circle that you had may not exist any more. Many of your friends may still be married and you need to expand your circle of single friends.
I recommend that you reach out to like minded singles and start to meet new friends. It is important that you have fun. If you enjoy reading, join a book club, if you enjoy kayaking there are some neat groups that take kayaking trips down some rivers of Rhode Island. Another great idea is to take a dance lesson. Women love to dance and appreciate a man who knows a few dance steps. Dancing is a great ice breaker and can introduce you to a whole new group of women.
Think about hobbies you used to pursue and perhaps have given up during your marriage. Take up golf again or join a golf league. If you enjoy the theater, think about signing up for seasons tickets and invite new single friends to join you. The most important thing is to not stay isolated. Stay active, have fun and pursue options to meet new women.
Wishing you lots of luck during this new single stage in your life.