Dear Debra,
I am really shy and have become reclusive since my husband’s death. What advise do you have for me to start meeting men?
Anne-Bristol, Rhode Island
Hello Anne,
Thank you for reaching out to me. I want to commend you for realizing that you can’t continue to stay in the house for extended periods of time. I know you are still getting accustomed to becoming “me” instead of “we” after your husband’s passing.
One of the most important areas you should concentrate on is staying active. Go out to lunch with girlfriends, look at the newspaper to see what is happening in the Bristol area and make it a point to attend at least one activity that interests you each week. You need to look forward to enjoying your life and getting used to your “new normal” as a single lady. This is a time to make new friends and explore opportunities for personal growth as well. You can take up a hobby, enjoy a dance lesson or even take day trips.
Rhode Island is such a beautiful state to explore! You will come in contact with men everywhere you go and if the opportunity presents itself….don’t be shy. Smile, say hello and see where the conversation takes you:-) Good luck as you navigate the next stage of your life!
If I can help you further navigate your new love story, please contact me.