Dear Debra,
I have just started dating after many years and quite honestly, I do not know how to flirt. Can you give me some advice to let the man I am dating know that I am interested in him. Any juicy tidbits are appreciated!
Laura – Warren, RI
Dear Laura,
Thank you for asking this question. So many ladies think about this and don’t know where to start. I will share one of my favorite sayings with you. “Chase him until he catches you!” Men generally like to be the one to pursue the lady, but secretly enjoy being pursued. The trick is to be subtle, classy and alluring all at the same time!
If you are on a first date and want to let the man know that you find him attractive, I would recommend that you gently reach out across the table and lightly touch his hand during your conversation to make ever so brief physical contact, look into his eyes and give him a big smile.
This will let him know that you are enjoying the conversation and find him attractive. Timing of this is key-so use your feminine intuition.
After your date you can text him, which seems to be how most people communicate today. I would be careful to only send a text every now and then. Also make your texts short and simple. Make sure you use spell check and remember you are interrupting his busy day – so if he doesn’t answer you please know that he still saw your text and it probably brought a smile to his face!
Here are a few sample text messages to choose from:
– Last night was fun! I am looking forward to seeing you again!
– I have been thinking of you all day!
– Hello Handsome!
– Miss you-wish you were here!
– Excited to see you tonight-wait until you see what I am wearing!
– Can you sneak away for coffee?
– Can’t go to sleep…thinking of you!
Be creative-but make sure you are not TOO provocative . You want to peak his interest in you and leave him wanting him to see you again soon!
If I can help you further navigate your new love story, please contact me.